Spiritual Abuse in Church? Moving Out & Moving on

If you’ve been victimized by an abusive pastor or church, I think you’ll find this article very helpful. From the title you may think I am suggesting just to “move out and move on”. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. There are those that have told me to “just get over it”, that if I were mature enough in Christ that I should be able to do just that. I feel I have…since the time I left the abusive church, or should I say, the abusive people in those churches, but this article isn’t for me, it’s for others who may still be in bondage in such churches and perhaps confused, hurt, in fear, and unsure about whether to leave or not. 

When I left the abusive apostate church I was in, I was literally crushed in my spirit. I felt I had been betrayed by people I thought I could trust. No, let me rephrase that. I had been betrayed.

I was confused and hurting. At that time there was no one I could turn to that would understand. After all, all my friends were in “church”, and wasn’t “church” where you were supposed to meet God, and wasn’t it ordained that one should not forsake the assembling together with the brethren?

I thought to myself, what brethren? They were all locked into the system, and the system I thought I could trust, the one I’d believed in was a sham, corrupt.

God had been good to me since my conversion, or I should say since my baptism in the Spirit. I had grown in the Word, and the LORD had blessed me in so many ways.

It took a lot of disappointments and more growth in the Word before I began to get my eyes opened to the things in the several churches I’ve been devoted to, that just plain were not of God.

It took months to even begin to recover physically and emotionally from the trauma I’d suffered from the years in church. But spiritually, I was devastated, and had to “rethink” my entire belief about “church” and what it was supposed to be scripturally. What I found was that it had no resemlance to the early church…and the way the LORD set it up.

I’ve learned later that many people who leave an abusive church walk away from God altogether and just try to get on with their lives as best they can. But for me, I had some serious issues that I needed to work out spiritually and wasn’t satisfied with walking away from God, because I knew he was real, and my experience was real, and like Peter, I felt, “Where would I go LORD? Only you have the words of truth”.

About that time I had been wishing I had a computer. Then, by the grace of God I received one as a gift. It was then I began searching for what others had experienced and found that the doctrines I’d been taught in the churches I’d attended were wrong….what the LORD had been telling me in my spirit all along.

I also found others like myself who were leaving the apostate organized churches for the same reasons. They weren’t “backslidders”. In fact, they were people who were devoted to God and completely serious in their walk. But they had also eventually seen the abuses and wrong doctrines, and controlling natures of the bird cages they’d been in bondage to.

After you come out of an abusive church or spiritual situation, expect to have some emotional healing to go through. It’s not pleasant to be sure, but it’s normal. You may look at it as a blessing in disguise because once you’re out, you’re no longer being under the control and expectations of others to conform to their ways and doctrines. You will not have the liberty in the Spirit to come to know Jesus according to the Word of God in a personal and living way. The Apostle Paul spent much time alone with the Lord after his Damascus Road experience, learning from Him directly before he ever made contact with the other Apostles and brethren.

This time alone with the Lord, for me, became a time of refreshing, reorganizing my spiritual thoughts…and a time of  healing eventually.

In a way, it was the biggest weight off my shoulders I’ve ever felt, even if at the time it felt beyond strange, with Satan laying a guilt trip on me that it was somehow my fault. No, it was not and I’ve come to accept that. For where the Spirit is there is liberty.

And God bless you as you continue your spiritual journey of healing and on to maturity in Christ.

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Apostate Matrix Churches-Saints Leaving in Droves

Back-slidden Apostate Churches, aka, The Matrix Church

I like what this man has to say in this video. It is the Truth!

These are the days when apostasy and compromise have become quite commonplace in churches across the land. The biblical warnings have fallen on deaf ears in many places where those who will not obey the admonitions in scriptures  have not “ears to hear, nor eyes to see”, and who will not endure sound doctrine.

Be not deceived, beloved brethren. Make no mistake, the majority of mainstream, organized religion churches are indeed practicing compromise with the world. If you have experienced spiritual abuse in churches…if you have encountered persecution, abuse, and compromise from inside the “church”, you have experienced what the Apostle Paul warned about…that “savage wolves have entered in, not sparing the flock”.

Obeying Jesus Christ and His gospel is very precious and costly. What will it cost you? It will indeed cost you everything if you intend to obey and follow the Lamb of God ! It takes courage not to compromise. Who will you stand for, no matter what the cost? 

Remember what Mary said to the servants at the wedding at Cana? , “Whatever He, (Jesus), tells you to do, do that!” That is what we must do if we intend with all our hearts, minds and strength, to obey the commandments of Jesus. Costly? Yes! But there is a blessing in it, to be walking with Him in Spirit and in Truth.

The apostate church cannot be reformed, it can only be abandoned. For this reason, the LORD said,

16And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? for you are the temple of the living God; as God has said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

17Therefore come out from among them, and be you separate, says the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,

18And will be a Father unto you, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty. 2nd Cor; 6 KJV. 

Rest assured as you follow on to obey Him and  stand on His promises, he will not fail you. As you obey, in love and patience, in due time, He will bring you into fellowship with other true believers who also refuse to compromise with the world, and worldly churches….those who’ve also had the courage to “Come out from amongst them”. Indeed, if you have been experiencing spiritual abuse, persecution in the church, this may be the Lord’s way of telling you it’s time to come out.  If the church where you are going bears no resemblance to the early church Jesus set up in the book of Acts, teaching and practicing the same way, it is a counterfeit and not of Him, no matter how it appears to be superficially.

Why would this surprise us? We’ve been warned it would happen.

My fervent prayer is that all who’ve been hurt, abused, deceived and persecuted in such churches by false brethren will be healed and ministered to by Jesus. That He will pour in the oil and the wine. If you have been hurt and spiritually abused,  we invite you to come, share your story with others and fellowship. We will listen…because we’ve “been there”, and we care about you. “By this you will know them, that they love one another”.

May Grace and Peace be multiplied to you~

Scarlett

 

Thomas Gibson- Prophetic Word

 http://www.telusplanet.net/public/tsgibson/book2web.htm
2003 01 31.1

For thus saith the Lord. Do not despair. I am going throughout the churches of America to see who will put My Name first, who will put the salvation by the Blood of the Lamb above all else. Those who do so will be blessed by the Lord above; but those who do not will be condemned by Me.

Do not turn to the world or the world’s ways. Do not listen to the ways of many who compromise My gospel. Those who turn away from the compromising position of the worldly church will be blessed by Me. Those who continue in the work of compromising My Word will be condemned!

Do not doubt this word. I am going throughout the world and throughout the churches in America to see who will put me first. It is time that the worldliness be burned out of the church! It is time to see that God is placed first above all things. There is power in the name of Jesus. Those who walk in that power are walking with Me. Those who do not walk in the power are walking with the world.

Not only will I turn away from godless churches, but I will turn to those who are truly serving Me in truth and power, and I will give them a protection in this time. For coming soon is a persecution and a strong attack against My people. Not only that but there is coming trouble to America’s shores. I will protect and guide My people through this time.

Do not partake in those churches and religious organizations who will not listen to the Word of God and follow it in a complete way.

2003 02 16.1

In a dream I was walking around an old church building. This building had an old cracked foundation in very bad shape. I was walking along the back of the church on an old sidewalk that was in worse shape than the church building. It was badly sunk in places and I had to be careful to not trip on the concrete.

As I walked along I was aware of what the people in this church were planning. There was a person who was with me and he asked what they were going to do with this old church building. I told him that the people of this church had decided to tear it down and rebuild in another location outside of the city. As he looked at the cracked foundation he remarked to me that that was a very good idea, it was what they needed to do.

Then as I had almost finished walking around the building I stepped on two nails which went into my shoe, but not into my foot. I looked at how far in they were and was thinking I would need a hammer to pull them out. I then woke up.

It was then that the Lord began to show me the meaning of what I had just seen. He said there were three main important facts about this church.

1. The foundation was cracked because they had built on worldly things, not on the Rock Christ Jesus.

2. They were building outside the city limits. It was a great new church to themselves and they were moving away from the people it was originally designed to reach.

3. The walkway at the back of the church was so cracked it was hard to walk on, and this was an indication that it would be very hard for an outside person to find the way, in that church, to Jesus.

Then the Lord began to show me the symbolism of the nails on the sidewalk going around the church. They represent the additional troubles of preaching against sin, rather than deliverance from sin. One nail represents the preaching against sin without any obvious deliverance, the other represents the refusal to show the people, who sought for an answer, the deliverance through Jesus’ Blood.