Spiritual Abuse..Rampant in Today’s Churches

I wonder…how many Christians  are still locked into spiritual abuse in their local church or fellowship, and don’t even realize what they are giving allegiance to with their time, worship and money is “not all about Jesus Christ”, but rather man made doctrines, traditions of men that make the word of God of no effect. 

As a new Christian, this happened to me during my first years after joining a church. I’d been studying the word of God, I’d prayed earnestly, I was “on fire” for God, yet, something was nagging at my heart. Doubts. I kept asking myself why this church and other ones I’d visited didn’t seem to line up with the biblical model of the  church that Christ set up in the early church, described in the Book of Acts, and the epistles of the Apostles.

I knew that when I went to church and worshipped, the presence of the Holy Spirit would manifest, so I continued to rationalize that “church” as I experienced it, must be due to the change in the era. Still, the Holy Spirit kept reminding me that “Jesus doesn’t change”. He is the same today, yesterday and forever. I couldn’t shake this still small voice.

Finally, as I grew more mature in the scriptures, I started noticing there were practices in the church I belonged to that were mimicking the un-scriptural things they viewed on Christian TV. When I began hesitantly speaking to a few of my friends in church about these questions, they began to come against me. Looking back on the events that followed, I realize now, these were warning signals given me by the Holy Spirit.The upshot was that God Himself drew me out of this  spiritually abusive prison house of apostasy I’d been trapped in. I cannot begin to describe to you the sense of freedom, and liberation in my spirit, once out. However, that doesn’t mean there were not after effects from the abuse, rejection, and sense of isolation I felt after leaving the brethren and fellowship I loved.  There were many, and it has taken much time with Jesus to bring me through what was a very painful period in my life.

Folks, we should closely examine what our churches are teaching and practicing. For all of you who’ve come out of spiritually abusive churches, or..perhaps you feel you may be in one, I would recommend some of the excellent resources on the Internet where you can find help and fellowship with other Christians. This is one very good one that covers these issues in depth,  http://www.charismatic-captivation.com/?p=5 . And of course, you are welcome to make comments here in this blog and tell your personal story. We welcome comments.


9 comments on “Spiritual Abuse..Rampant in Today’s Churches

  1. Drgold says:

    Hi Scarlett

    Sadly, I agree with you! The churches are in great apostasy & will be spued out the Lord’s mouth Re3:16.

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    Also here is a word the Lord gave my wife recently:

    Re The End Time- The Lord Cometh 4 Oct 2020
    Soon churches are going to be used as multi-purpose buildings & the famous ones will be museums. There is no need for churches today as the CV pandemic has shown that people can live-stream services into their own homes. But many people are watching other church programs too, not necessarily from their churches. Though many people have had the form of religion, but not really spiritual or true Christians. It is they who will join the Apostate church group.

    Churches have no purpose today & are basically just structures so they will close their doors & go bankrupt because of non-support Re3:16,22. They will never return to normal like before the CV pandemic. This world-wide pandemic has brought the whole world to its knees. God is using it to separate unto Himself a people who will persevere & take note of the signs of His coming. The people are being separated as good & bad, righteous & unrighteous, wheat or chaff, moral or immoral, Bible-believing & Bible-hating. There are no compromise; you are either believers in Jesus Christ or an unbeliever, like the sheep & the goats, one or the other.

    Most people do not realize how time has run out. It is not running out, but has run out. This means that whoever is going to be Raptured must BE READY NOW because Jesus’ return is imminent Mt24:44. The forces of evil are already here. God has already decided which people have been given over to reprobate minds, & they are the masses of people. There is no holding back of the fury or wrath of God that will come upon a world of God-haters & evil people.

    The US is disintegrating & there will be no recovery this time. Isaiah’s prophecy is that darkness will cover the earth & gross darkness the people Is60:2, does not indicate HOPE for a better day coming. The Middle East coalition that is being formed show us that a showdown between Israel & the Palestinians issue is very near. There will NOT be a valid presidential election to speak of. Pres. Trump has done what he could to try to bring us back to God & righteousness, & it has proven that too many people oppose him as a person, not for his policies or achievements. Unfortunately unless America repents, we will go down as a nation, & be scorned because we forsook God 2Chr7:14.19-20.

    Aloha & AGape,

    • Scarlett says:

      Very well said, about the churches and the US…..Dr. Gold.
      Indeed, the church is in deep trouble right along with the government and the United States as a whole. It makes one wonder however, (which came first the chicken or the egg)?
      Concerning President Trump, I am not enamored of the man as some seem to be. I believe those who are—- are being deceived, perhaps innocently, because as it says in the last days even the elect can be deceived…..and obviously, it is possible. I’m not into politics, per se, but the Holy Spirit has shown me a few things….for example; Trump has played his best card, the religion card, just like Pres Bush did before him, while at the same time mocking evangelicals behind their backs. Basically, neither one was a Christian.
      Christians and others may vote for Trump because they feel they have no other choice ( Trump or Biden)…….I can understand that mindset, because it’s not much of a choice, it’s more like Russian Roulette.
      But I think we’d all better have our minds made up who we’re going to put our trust in.
      Those who want to see America become great again need to ask themselves, in what fashion do I want this? For my own comfort? So I can continue with my pleasant lifestyle? And, would this still be OK even though America has not changed and is still wallowing in sin like a pig that has returned to the mire, or, continually shows increasing disrespect for God and His Son Jesus? That flaunts sodomy, transgenderism, even pedophilia, all the while wading through the blood of innocent babies, even whose little bodies are still damp and warm from their mothers womb? For America to become great again, the entire nation would have had to REPENT in sackcloth and ashes as did Nineveh, but all you hear from Trump and his apostate “spiritual advisors” is to call for God to bless America. nothing mentioned about calling a National Day of Repentance. Pnly God Himself could turn the people back to Himself and righteousness……but ONLY if they repent. Don’t hold your breath waiting for that. I believe judgment is set and this now unholy nation has already crossed over the Rubicon.

  2. Wow! that is one of the reasons God led me to write the book “The Wide Path” if you have an opportunity, kindly check it out.

    • Scarlett says:

      Reading the preface, your book looks amazing and one that people would learn from.
      The answer to your first question in the book, is no, it is not easy to discern if you’re in a good church…………not unless you have the baptism of the Holy Spirit and are becoming firmly grounded in the Bible and it’s truths.
      God bless you for reaching out to babies in the Lord. They need to be warned…a “church” is not always what it appears to be on the surface.
      Love in Jesus…..

  3. Scarlett says:

    Meanwhile, as we’re all trying to keep body and soul together, earning a living, keeping food on the table and gas in the van, & gathering our kids round about us, and trying to keep the “world” at bay, out of our lives and homes, as well as out of our places of worship…the enemy is busy preparing for the Endgame, “The Gog Magog War”.

    The big scenario in the Middle East is looming on the horizon and getting closer everyday. While life goes on here at home, what’s soon coming will change our lives, and life from here on out will never be the same. Doom and gloom? No, just bible prophecy right there in the ole KJV, and oh, maybe downplayed or spun on the evening news to make it seem not so scary. But folks, it is scary and it is serious. Even though this is a spiritual abuse blog, I hope to cram as much info in this little piece of cyber space I can to warn folks. It’s up to them what they do with it. God bless you and those you love!

    The Coming Gog Magog War

  4. Scarlett says:

    Hi Michael, yes, the problem is widespread but thanks to the Internet, the word is getting out about what until now has been the “best kept secret” of the churches. People from everywhere are coming out and telling their stories, because before they had no one to go to or support them in their anguish.

    I’m happy to hear you and your family are out of the spiritually abusive church you were in, and now growing and enjoying the LORD.

    Silence is never “golden” in cases of spiritual abuse. So, God bless you with success in your own blog endeavor. Keep us posted!

  5. I have been through the same and my family and I are in recovery. Learning and coming to know Jesus in a wonderful way. Minus all of the interference from the abusive leadership that we were under. I am working on a blog myself called good religion. It’s not ready yet but I am noticing how widespread this problem is. Keep blogging , this is a great way to reach people. This is a taboo topic, even those who leave the abuse are usually not willing to talk and heal. God bless you

  6. Scarlett says:

    Micah 4: 6 “In that day,” declares the LORD,
    “I will assemble the lame
    And gather the outcasts,
    Even those whom I have afflicted.
    7 “I will make the lame a remnant
    And the outcasts a strong nation,
    And the LORD will reign over them in Mount Zion
    From now on and forever.
    8 “As for you, [d]tower of the flock,
    [e]Hill of the daughter of Zion,
    To you it will come—
    Even the former dominion will come,
    The kingdom of the daughter of Jerusalem.

    9 “Now, why do you cry out loudly?
    Is there no king among you,
    Or has your counselor perished,
    That agony has gripped you like a woman in childbirth?
    10 “Writhe and labor to give birth,
    Daughter of Zion,
    Like a woman in childbirth;
    For now you will go out of the city,
    Dwell in the field,
    And go to Babylon.
    There you will be rescued;
    There the LORD will redeem you
    From the hand of your enemies.
    11 “And now many nations have been assembled against you
    Who say, ‘Let her be polluted,
    And let our eyes [f]gloat over Zion.’
    12 “But they do not know the thoughts of the LORD,
    And they do not understand His purpose;
    For He has gathered them like sheaves to the threshing floor.
    13 “Arise and thresh, daughter of Zion,
    For your horn I will make iron
    And your hoofs I will make bronze,
    That you may pulverize many peoples,
    That you may devote to the LORD their unjust gain
    And their wealth to the Lord of all the earth.

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